World of Autism

Lucas just got around to writing his, “Thank you for the Christmas present” notes last week.

These days, Lucas types his thank you notes on the computer, and folds them into a note card size.  Then he stamps the front of the card, and signs his name on the inside.

I help him make them look special by letting him choose a border for the “note” section, and letting him choose from a couple of different “Thank You” stamps and ink colors.

These choices make it more fun for Lucas, and give him some control over the situation.

“But how does he know what to write?” you ask.  He doesn’t! 

So when it’s time to do thank you notes, (I give Lucas 2 or 3 days AND times to choose from, and then remind him so he’s prepared), here’s what happens:

• Lucas gets to write the notes over several days, writing 2 or 3 per day (this way each writing session isn’t overwhelming.)
• He chooses who to write to each day from a list I’ve made of who gave him what.
• Then he has to read what they gave him (with my help if he needs it).
• I try to get him to think of one more thing he can put in the note, asking him questions like, “What did you see in your new book?”, “What do you want to get with your money?”, or “Do you like your new DVD?”
• As we go through the process of who he wants to write to, what they gave him and something else about his gift, I’ll neatly print this information on a piece of paper, so Lucas has something to follow when he types his note.

Even when Lucas was very young (and completely non-verbal), he sent thank you notes.  Back then, I would write them for him.  Then with my hand over his to guide him, I would help Lucas stamp “Thank you” and also stamp a heart inside each note.

Then, according to what he had learned over time (typing skills to get around on the computer, writing his name, reading printed letters, etc.), I’d let him practice his new skills on the next set of thank you notes.

So if your child can hold a stamp, type an internet address, print or sign his name, consider helping them to write a thank you note next time they get a present.  It’s a great way to help them practice some skills, and the person who receives it gets a marvelous surprise!

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